The BEST way for YOU to learn English - Extrovert or Introvert?

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Hi everyone. I'm Jade. I'm your new teacher! That's my name. I'm from London. So it's really

nice to meet you all, and if -- I want you to watch my video, and I really do want you

to subscribe at the end of the lesson so you get to see my other new videos on EngVid.

But, first of all, for today's lesson, I've got a confession to make. I am an introvert.

What's an "introvert"? This is a kind of person who, actually, just prefers to spend a lot

of time alone. But people misunderstand introverts, and they always think that it means "shy".

They think that every introvert is shy, and I wouldn't say I'm shy. It's just the way

my personality is. For me, when I spend time alone, that's kind of, like, how I get energy.

And then after, I feel good again, and I can go out into the world. But most people in

the world, they're, actually, opposite to me. They are extroverts, okay? And this means

that -- when you are an "extrovert", you just love to be around people all the time, and

that's what makes you feel great, basically. So we've got some people who are extroverts

in the world, and we've got some people who are introverts in the world.

How does this relate to you learning English? Well, I think it does, because it can really

help you know that the way you're learning English is right for you or, you know, you

could change it and make it better for you. But also, I would say that, in general, the

whole world of English language teaching kind of focuses more on these guys because, actually,

they've got a great advantage when it comes to learning languages.

So we're going to talk a little bit about these guys and give advice for, you know,

the majority of you watching this video. But we're also going to look at the introvert

perspective because this is something that I just found out myself when I was trying

to learn languages. I found out that, although I didn't realize it at the time, I was just

really slow. Like, I'd be trying to remember a word and really, really slow, and everybody

else has already said it or everybody else has already finished. Like, the words came

really, really slowly to me. But I always understood a lot, and that confused me because

I'd think sometimes, "I'm just rubbish at this language." But I understood a lot. So

my speaking wasn't as advanced as my other skills in the language. It's not something

I realized until later. I wish I'd seen a video like this to help me explain why.

So let's take a look, first of all, at some expressions that can describe extroverts and

introverts. So an extrovert who -- an extrovert is somebody who thinks "the more the merrier".

And that means, "The more people there are around me, the happier I am." They love to

be around people. Extroverts also are often "the life and soul of the party". That means

they're the most fun person in the room, and people like to be around them -- great, fun

people to have at a party. Also, very often, extroverts are "chatterboxes", blah, blah,

blah, blah, talking all the time, always got something to say. Extroverts are chatterboxes.

And I'm just pointing out the differences. I'm not saying that you guys are wrong to

be extroverts. That's just the way you are. Let's have a look at the introvert, the person

who likes to spend time alone a lot of the time. For them, you could say their motto

is, "It's just me, myself, and I." Happy to be alone. You could also say an introvert

at a party is more likely to be a "wallflower". A "wallflower" is someone who's not going

to start conversation with anyone, who's not going to be dancing around having great, amazing

conversations. The wallflower is going to be a bit shy and is going to wait for other

people to come to talk to them. And the introvert, also, likes to have deep and meaningful conversations,

okay? Doesn't like small talk. Doesn't like chatter, chatter, chatter, chatter -- likes

to talk on a meaningful level. So they've got different ways of being. How

does this relate to learning English? Well, as I said earlier, the extrovert, really,

has the learning advantage when it comes to languages because most people, you know, when

they learn a language, they do it because they want to be able to speak the other language

because communication is so much about speaking. And the great thing for you, if you're an

extrovert, is you're so curious and social you want to know what's happening all the

time; you want to be in the middle of things; you want to know what's going on. And that's

a great advantage for you because it means that you talk -- you take every opportunity

to talk. It's no problem for you. So you could be in a new situation -- in a

different country or something -- but, you know, maybe you feel a little bit shy because

you don't, you know -- you don't want to say something wrong, but you'll need to be in

conversation. It's so strong, and you're so proactive, that you'll talk. So that means

that you get lots of speaking practice, and that's so good for you developing in your

English. So if you're an extrovert, you'll learn a language much more quickly -- at least

at a speaking level -- than your introverted friends.

Your introverted friends are, really, quite shy speakers. They might not be shy people,

but to say, you know, small talk stuff, for example, to actually be speaking the other

language at a very basic level -- like, "What are your hobbies?" That kind of thing -- an

introvert's almost thinking, like, "I can't bring myself to ask the question." So they

might know what to say, but they might not say it. And because they don't say it, their

mouth is not getting the practice of speaking that other language. They know a lot in their

head, but they're not actually using it. So this can make their progress with the language

quite slow. And also, the introvert very often misses

the opportunity to speak because they're hesitant. It means they're slow. Maybe before they speak,

they think about what they're going to say. Plus, they don't initiate -- they don't start

conversations with people. The introvert waits for the other person to come and speak to

them. And when you're an introvert, you're quite

fearful of mistakes. You don't want to look stupid; you don't want to say the wrong thing.

And that's -- that means it's one of the reasons that you don't speak to people. So this is

not looking very good for you learning a language as an introvert.

But, but, but, it's not all bad because let's look at the other side of the situation now.

So if you're an extrovert, you might be great at talking, but -- I know this for a fact

-- very often, extroverts are not so good at listening because you're -- you just want

to be talking and not so much listening to what other people are telling you. And one

-- the reason this is also a bad thing for extroverts is it also means they have a small

passive vocabulary. You don't, actually, know that many words. But the words you do know,

you can use very well, and, you know, you can have great conversations with it. So that's

good. On the other hand, the introverts might not

be saying much, but they could be great listeners, and they could understand a lot more than

the extrovert. The extroverts really seem like they know everything and can say everything,

but they don't understand so much. Also, the introvert has a really wide passive vocabulary.

There are lots of words they know, but the thing is, it can be -- there can be a time

delay in remembering those words. So very often, you miss the opportunity in conversation.

You know them, but they come too slow. This is one of the reasons that introverts are

good at writing in their own language and also in English because when you write, you

have a little bit of extra time to remember what you want to say.

Also, because introverts very often like to do stuff by themselves, we could say that

maybe they've got more time for actually doing their studies and their work. So very often,

they have better grammar skills because they're actually willing to do that kind of work.

So what can you do now that you know the strengths and witnesses of either being on extrovert

or an introvert? Well, I've got some advice for you. And I think it can help you with

your development when you're learning English, basically. So we'll start with the extroverts.

It's really amazing that extroverts are the kind of people who can learn a language -- or

English -- actually just on the street. They can go to a place, and, you know, just kind

of learn from the people they're around. That's so great. For an introvert, that would be

really hard to do because it would take so much courage to make themselves speak in every

single opportunity they got. They probably wouldn't do it. So anyway, if you're an extrovert,

it's easy for you to take every opportunity to speak. So that's why doing immersive experiences,

travelling to other countries where you can do an exchange, or studying in a different

country -- that's great for you because, again, you take every opportunity to speak.

Also, traditional TEFL (English) classes -- these are great for you as well because there's

a big class of people. You can swap around. You can swap. You can talk to many people

in the room. That's great for you. So much opportunity for you to be practising your

English in traditional classroom situations. What's not so useful for you? I would say

"book learning" in general. You really like to have it -- have your English practice active.

You like to be speaking; you like to be involved; and you like to be doing things. So wherever

you can, make sure you're doing that. Of course, studying is helpful. But for you, know that

you'll really develop your speaking just by being in the right situation around the right

people. Also, I've had a couple of times where extroverts

have told me, "Oh, I could never learn on Skype because, you know, I need to be around

more people, and it's just one person, blah, blah, blah." I mean, that's something you'd

have to discover for yourself -- could a one-on-one situation actually work for you. But just

as a general rule, extroverts do like to be around a lot of people. So perhaps, maintaining

the teacher-student interaction for as much as an hour is not something that an extrovert

is going to enjoy so much. Also, audio learning programs, they could be okay, but not fantastic

for the extrovert because there's no interaction there for them. Moving on.

Advice for my introverted friends. Sounds a bit silly, but talk to yourself, okay? Because

you don't take opportunities to speak, what you know in your head is often at a much higher

level than your ability to actually say it and speak it. So when you try to speak, the

words don't come out in the really nice way you want them to just because you haven't

practised moving your mouth enough. But when you talk to yourself, nothing can go wrong.

You can just talk to yourself. So that's something to try.

You can make a friend -- singular friend. Someone that you feel really comfortable speaking

English with, so you can get a lot of practice with that one person and, you know, feel good

about yourself when you're doing it. And know that some things will be scary for you when

it comes to learn a language, and that's okay. For example, in a -- and I speak from experience

-- in a typical TEFL classroom situation, there's a very strong emphasis on games all

the time, always playing games with this person, speaking about things, moving to the other

table, speaking to another person. And it can be quite draining for an introvert because

there are many people, there's a lot of small talk, and there's a lot of games. So maybe,

if you're like me, you won't like that. Also, big classes might be something you don't

like because there are many people that you will need to speak to. And that can maybe

shake your confidence a bit, and you might not be feeling too good.

I don't know why I put "teach yourself" there. This is in the wrong place. But teaching yourself

is one of your strengths, so it's okay just to do lots of self-study, talking to yourself,

doing your grammar, watching EngVid. You can do all that stuff by yourself.

So I hope that this has helped you understand the way you learn a little bit better from

a personality perspective. What I would like you to do now is go to www.engvid.com where

you can do a quiz on today's lesson. Plus, this is my reminder to you to subscribe here

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So please subscribe here and there. I'd really appreciate it. So now, I'm finished. And I'm

just going to do some introverted stuff. So, anyways, I'll see you later.